Hazrat Moulana Dawood Seedat Saheb Madrasah Isha'atul Haq · Albert Falls Albert Falls, KwaZulu-Natal
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Madrasah Isha'atul Haq · Albert Falls Albert Falls, KwaZulu-Natal · 2026
Curtail Our Social Interactions | Hazrat Moulana Dawood Seedat Saheb
Curtail Our Social Interactions Hazrat Moulana Dawood Seedat Saheb
Hijri date 20 Rajab 1440
Date 27 March 2019
Duration 34:49
Venue Madressa Isha'atul Haq Summary Main Topic
The core purpose of taking Bay'ah (spiritual pledge) for self-reformation (islah ) and the vital spiritual discipline of Adam-e-Ikhtilat (refraining from unnecessary socializing and futile mixing with people).
Key Lessons
Purpose of Bay'ah: The primary objective of taking Bay'ah is spiritual reformation (islah ), purifying one's character, and establishing a genuine connection (ta'alluq ) with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, not seeking worldly barakah, physical healing, or status.Testing Suitability: Great masters like Hazrat Maulana Maseehullah Khan Saheb (RA) and Hazrat Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (RA) advised correspondence before Bay'ah to gauge spiritual alignment (munasabat ).Etiquette of Visiting the Sick: Visiting the sick is a Sunnah of a voluntary (nafl ) nature. One must ensure visits do not result in committing sins (e.g., failing to guard the gaze in hospitals), causing inconvenience (takleef ) to others, or occupying time meant for the patient's immediate family.Concept of Adam-e-Ikhtilat: Unnecessary mixing with people leads to idle talk, futile debates, backbiting (ghibat ), and spiritual negligence. Interaction should strictly be based on necessity (zarurat ) and kept to the minimum required (baqadri zarurat ).Preserving Sanctity of the Masjid: The masjid is a sanctuary to connect with Allah. Engaging in idle worldly talk inside the masjid deprives oneself and others of divine connection.
Quranic/Hadith References
Reference to the Quranic principle that the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wasallam serves as the ultimate beautiful pattern/example (Uswoh Hasanah ) for believers.
Hadith reference emphasizing the selection of reliable authorities from whom one learns Deen.
Example from the Seerah regarding the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wasallam's wise, gentle treatment of a new Muslim who was unaware of masjid etiquette.
Practical Advice
Keep visits to hospitalized or ill individuals brief (e.g., two minutes) to avoid crowding and disrupting the family.
Avoid unnecessary social media chat groups that foster idle chatter (layani ) or sinful communication.
Transcript Machine-generated, so it will contain mistakes — the audio is the reference. Tap any line to play from that moment.
0:01 Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. 0:07 Nahmaduhu wa nusalli ala rasulihim kareem. 0:10 Amma ba'd. 0:12 Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem. 0:16 Normally on a Wednesday night, we do the biography of Sayyidina Abu Bakr Siddiq. 0:22 Raziyallahu ta'ala. 0:26 Even the students also are not here. 0:30 So I don't want to carry on with the kitab. 0:33 The two are following. 0:36 So from next week, inshaAllah, we'll continue with the biography. 0:40 However, on Monday night, Hazrat Maulana Abdul Haqq Sahib Maghda's majlis, he was discussing a few malfoozaat of Hazrat Ji Maulana MasyaAllah rahmatullah alayhi. 1:02 And the whole theme was that what is the maqsat of bayat? 1:12 Why does a person take bayat? 1:15 So we know that the person takes bayat, the person wants to make their islah, they want to improve their akhlaq, want to build a relationship with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, get closer to Allah, but 1:32 Be blessed with the ma'rifat of Allah Ta'ala. 1:37 So that is why we take bayat. 1:41 So in that bayat, there must be total ikhlas. 1:45 I am taking bayat to get close to Allah Ta'ala. 1:51 There is no other maqsat, no other reason. 1:56 Huzurji Ma'unum MasyaAllah. 1:57 Rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. 1:59 If anybody used to come to him for bayat, then he used to delay. 2:09 He shouldn't just give bayat quickly. 2:13 And that was also the practice of our Hazrat Mu'azibat al-Hassan rahmatullahi alayhi. 2:20 So a person would come and Hazrat Ji rahmatullahi alayhi would tell that person that no, you start corresponding first. 2:27 Start corresponding first 2:30 Then you'll see whether you are benefiting. 2:33 And then I can also gauge whether there is a munasabat, etc. 2:40 Then after that, bayat will follow. 2:46 And this was also the tariqah of Hazrat Munasir Padi Sahib Thanvi Rahmatullahi. 2:52 However, Hazrat Thanvi Rahmatullahi, he had one habit. 2:59 That if a person was ill, and that person requested bayat, then he would give him bayat immediately. 3:10 Any person who was ill, person is not well, and in that condition he requested bayat, so he would give him bayat immediately. 3:21 So on one occasion, he was out 3:25 It is of a nafal nature. 3:56 It's a sunnah of Nabi sallallahu alayhi wasallam. 3:58 But it is of a naffal nature. 3:59 That if we do it, we will get reward. 4:03 If a person doesn't do it, there is no guna as such. 4:06 If he didn't go to visit, somebody was not well and he didn't go visit. 4:09 There is no guna as such. 4:13 Yes, we know that the person is taken care of. 4:15 He's got family. 4:16 Somebody is looking after him. 4:20 Obviously if he's got nobody to look after him and the person is suffering there then it becomes our duty now to go and see to him. 4:27 If a person is taken care of and now we go and visit him. 4:32 So we are going to visit to make amal upon the sunnah of Nabiya Kareem. 4:36 Sallallahu alayhi wasallam. 4:38 And if we didn't make amal upon that particular sunnah at that time we won't get guna. 4:43 If for some reason person couldn't go visit he won't get any sunnah. 4:47 He won't get any guna. 4:50 So sometime we hear that somebody is not well. 4:56 Person is in hospital. 4:59 And now we get all the josh in us to go and visit that person. 5:07 When we go to the hospital then we are not making ifazat of our eyes. 5:12 Nurses there. 5:14 We are not making ifazat of our eyes. 5:18 And sometime we are 5:20 Giving taklif to others, etc. 5:23 Sometimes there are family people who want to visit that person who is not well. 5:30 And a whole lot of other people all come away there. 5:34 And the family people, which are I get left, they don't get to go and see that person. 5:38 They can't spend time during that visiting hours or something. 5:43 So in that case, sometimes it's better not to go. 5:48 If you didn't go and stayed at home, you wouldn't have got no guna. 5:54 You wouldn't have earned the sawab. 5:56 But at the same time, there's no sun. 5:59 But now if I know I got a problem with my eyes, and I know I'm going to go in the hospital, and I'm going to commit zina of my eyes, then why must I go and put myself in that type of a situation? 6:14 Where I went to go and make amal on some sunnah which is of a nafal nature. 6:19 And I went and committed haram. 6:23 And it means sin and guna. 6:28 I don't know how we ended up there. 6:32 Ji. 6:32 Swasthat Thani Rahmatullahi. 6:35 Ji. 6:35 And the other thing I was telling you is sometime we go to the hospital and we give takleef. 6:43 Now we're jamming the corridors there and we are talking so loudly and sometimes we go inside and now we are all men now. 6:52 We went to see one of our musallis and we're taking so long and the ladies, bichara, man's wife, his daughter, whoever, they're not even getting a chance. 7:03 Sometimes that man, he's not eating the hospital food, right? 7:07 But if his wife is there, she made some soup or something, she'd be able to feed him. 7:12 And now we took the whole visiting hours. 7:15 So all this is incorrect. 7:17 You go and visit somebody. 7:18 It's not well also. 7:20 Especially in a hospital situation. 7:23 Go. 7:24 Make salaam. 7:24 Two minutes and out. 7:26 Because there is limited time for people to visit that patient. 7:30 And give the family people preference. 7:32 You go there. 7:33 You see there is a large crowd there. 7:34 Whatever. 7:35 Turn around. 7:35 Allah Ta'ala knows we came. 7:38 We don't have to go. 7:38 A lot of time we go just to show our face. 7:42 Say, no, I came also. 7:44 I was also here. 7:46 So, Allah Ta'ala knows our niyyat. 7:49 If we went there, we saw there's a big crowd there, whatever. 7:52 Turn around, go away. 7:54 Allah Ta'ala will give us the reward. 7:55 He knows that we made an effort. 7:59 So, Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W. 8:02 He had gone to visit one person who was not well. 8:05 So that person requested bayat. 8:11 So Hazrat Thani Rahmatullah Ali, according to his practice, that if somebody is ill and they request bayat, he is to give them immediately. 8:19 So he made that person bayat. 8:22 So after some time, that person came to meet Hazrat Maulana Shukri Sahib Thani Rahmatullah Ali. 8:31 So when he came, 8:33 So he said, you remember me, you know, you came to my house, I wasn't well. 8:37 So Allah Ta'ala gave me my health, like, you know, I thought like, it was the end of the road now, I was going to pass away, but Allah Ta'ala gave me my health back, I recovered, etc. 8:51 So you see, so he was attributing it to the barakat of the bayat. 8:58 That when I took bayat to you, 9:01 My intention was, if I take bayat to you, to the barakat of that, I'll get well. 9:06 I'll become better. 9:11 So, Hazratji, Hazrat Maulana Maqdasa was mentioning, Hazratji was mentioning to them in their majlis, that Hazrat Hanif Rahman nir Raheem got so upset, he chased that person away from them. 9:25 He said, with what intention you took bayat? 9:29 For barakat seek to get better. 9:31 Or you took bayat to get connected with Allah for your islah, your reformation. 9:38 With what intention you took bayat? 9:41 Very upset. 9:42 And he chased you away from him. 9:45 He was explaining that bayat, the maqsad, you know, must have a maqsad, the objective is our reformation. 9:54 We want to get connected with Allah Ta'ala. 9:57 Everything else, 9:58 We want to get it out of our life. 10:00 And we want to have Allah in our hearts. 10:05 So, Hazrat Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa barakatuh mentioned that one of the preconditions, one of the very, very important ingredients is Adam-e-Ikhtilat. 10:22 Adam-e-Ikhtilat. 10:25 Don't mix too much with people. 10:29 Don't mix with people. 10:31 Right? 10:33 Our engagements with people, our interactions with people must be due to zarurat. 10:42 Right? 10:44 Some necessity, some need, then we will mix. 10:49 And then it must be baqadri zarurat. 10:53 To the extent of the necessity. 10:58 Other than that 11:00 To just mix with people and just get involved in conversations and get involved in discussions and debates and all these things, it is just a waste of time. 11:11 It's a waste of time and it gets a person involved in so many futile things, futile discussions, things that got nothing to do with us at all. 11:25 Right? 11:26 We get involved in all those discussions and 11:29 Talking about other people. 11:35 Now, for example, hot topic. 11:39 Peter Marisville, now we are going for Jummah, you know. 11:43 There's a hot topic in Peter Marisville. 11:46 Now, how does it become a hot topic? 11:49 How does it become a hot topic? 11:52 It's because we want to meet and discuss. 11:56 We want to meet people. 11:57 We want to discuss with people. 12:00 If we don't meet, we don't discuss, we just carry on with our work. 12:05 Right? 12:06 Do we read Jummah day every Friday? 12:08 We don't. 12:08 So carry on reading where we are reading and khalas. 12:11 Where's the problem? 12:13 Why do we have to get involved? 12:15 Right? 12:17 Nabi Akarim sallallahu alayhi wasallam has told us that we must see who we take our deen from. 12:24 Right? 12:25 Who we study our deen from. 12:26 We must see who we study our deen from. 12:29 So when you go to the masjid for Jumu'ah, you want to listen to a talk on deen. 12:35 Because we want to learn something. 12:36 We are lazy people. 12:38 We don't have too much of time on our hands. 12:41 One Friday we go, we listen to something. 12:43 One program we go, we listen to something. 12:46 We want to learn something about our deen. 12:48 So is that person an authority on our deen? 12:52 Learn authority on our deen? 12:53 So we don't have to attend his talk? 12:55 Finished? 12:56 So, you see, 12:58 We have to have our principles, right? 13:01 We have to have our principles and we follow our principle. 13:05 And then there is no need to get into lengthy, lengthy discussions and debates and stories and what for? 13:14 On anything. 13:17 On anything. 13:18 Any topic. 13:21 If it's something in our life. 13:23 Give an example. 13:27 One person 13:31 He is from some other country. 13:32 I can't remember which country. 13:38 From some other country. 13:41 And he has got a Sheikh there in that country. 13:47 And he has applied for employment in some firm, some company. 13:54 And in his CV he 13:59 He put there that he got so many years of experience in that field. 14:05 But now he says that I don't actually have experience in that particular. 14:10 I didn't work for companies. 14:13 But I did that same work in small shops. 14:17 But I didn't mention that. 14:19 I just put about experience. 14:21 Left it mutlak. 14:22 Generally. 14:25 So after he sent in his CV and he got approved now, you know, he went for interview and now he's approved for the job. 14:33 So his Sheikh was having a majlis and in the majlis he mentioned something about halal, rosy and whatever. 14:40 So this person got a bit worried that maybe, you know, I wasn't too clear in my CV. 14:48 So maybe I'm tainting my risk. 14:51 So he went to ask the Sheikh. 14:53 The Sheikh told him, let's see there is nothing to worry about here now. 14:59 You didn't specify that you got experience working for this firm and that factory and whatever. 15:07 You just said you got experience in that field and you do have the experience in that field although you worked for some small shops. 15:14 You do have the experience so now just leave it now. 15:17 Leave it at that. 15:20 Now he is not satisfied. 15:23 So now he goes to, he went to ask the Sheikh again. 15:26 So the Sheikh told him, Siba, you'd rather go get fatwa from one Mufti now. 15:32 So he goes to the Mufti. 15:34 So the Mufti also tells him the same thing. 15:38 But he tells the Mufti now, no, I still don't have Sharia Sadaar. 15:42 It's still not 100% clear. 15:45 So the Mufti tells him, alright, go speak to some other ulama. 15:49 So now he sends an email now. 15:51 He said, I don't know too many other ulama, but I got your email from somewhere. 15:56 He gives a whole long story there about what happened. 15:59 He said, now what is the situation? 16:02 He said, brother, you got your sheikh there who told you. 16:07 You got a mufti there who told you. 16:09 Why are you still asking other people now? 16:13 Why are you still discussing this thing with other people? 16:16 You're just discussing for the sake of discussion. 16:20 There's no need for you to discuss. 16:22 Are you trying to expose what level of taqwa you got? 16:27 You want to show now. 16:28 See my high level of taqwa. 16:33 You have been told already by people whom you take your guidance from. 16:37 So accept that now and carry on. 16:42 So there's too much of discussions, too much of talking, too much of mixing with people. 16:50 Most of the time, most of the time, it is all futile. 16:56 All futile discussions. 16:59 Just takes our mind away in another direction. 17:04 Sometime then we get into disagreements and arguments. 17:08 Then we got bad blood with somebody. 17:10 Then animosity comes in the heart for somebody. 17:13 Jealousy comes away in the heart for somebody. 17:17 Along the line, ghibat gets made. 17:20 So many things happen. 17:22 Right? 17:23 So we must have our usuls and follow those usuls. 17:28 We must have people whom we take our guidance from and we take our guidance from there and then we put our head down and we carry on doing our work. 17:39 See the the race horse horse is running the race so they cover the eyes they cover the eyes 17:49 And that horse must just run. 17:52 It has to reach a finish line. 17:54 So it must just carry on running. 17:56 Eyes are closed. 17:56 It doesn't look right, left, all that. 17:59 It's got the rider. 18:03 Whichever direction the rider is steering him in, he goes in that direction. 18:08 He doesn't look right and left and all of that. 18:14 So we have to make our life like that. 18:16 Shariat is there. 18:18 The sunnah of Nabi Akarim sallallahu alayhi wasallam is there. 18:22 And then we have those whom we take our guidance from. 18:26 A person has got his shaykh for his islahi matters. 18:31 And if the shaykh has told him that for his fatawa he must consult with a certain mufti. 18:40 So then he gets his fatawa from there. 18:43 And khalas. 18:44 What more does a person need? 18:46 There is no confusion left. 18:48 And discussions, mixing with people, don't get involved in it. 18:52 Just stay away from it. 18:55 See, Nabi Karim sallallahu alayhi wasallam has left great example for us. 19:05 Allah Ta'ala tells us in the Quran Sharif that in Nabi Karim sallallahu alayhi wasallam there is a great example. 19:13 Right? 19:16 Now this 19:20 Shootings took place also in New Zealand. 19:27 So the president of that country, she is a lady and she is now, you know, she wore a headscarf and she went to sympathize with those people who lost family members, etc., 19:51 So all that is well and good. 19:53 Whatever she is doing. 19:55 That she is sympathizing. 19:57 It's human nature. 19:58 That's what you're supposed to do. 20:01 And she's making some public statements and whatever. 20:05 So all that is well and good. 20:07 Allah Ta'ala give her hidayat. 20:12 But now to get so carried away with the situation. 20:18 And say that no, this is the best ruler. 20:21 This is the ruler in this century. 20:24 This is how president should be and whatever. 20:28 Then we are forgetting what our Nabi sallallahu alayhi wasallam told us. 20:33 Nabi sallallahu alayhi wasallam, he didn't approve of ladies being rulers, presidents, prime ministers and in positions of rulership. 20:43 Nabi sallallahu alayhi wasallam didn't approve of that. 20:47 So Nabi Sallallahu alayhi wasallam has left for us formulas, usuls, advices, direction. 20:56 Right? 20:57 You see, his own uncle Abu Talib passed away without Iman. 21:05 Nabi Sallallahu alayhi wasallam was prohibited from even making dua for him. 21:10 On the other hand, Najashi, he passed away with Iman. 21:16 Nabi sallallahu alayhi wasallam even made janazah and namaz for him in absentia. 21:22 So the thing is Iman. 21:24 The thing is Iman. 21:28 Now all this support from the non-Muslim world, they are coming and lighting candles there. 21:37 They are coming and throwing flowers there. 21:40 They are coming inside the masjid not properly attired. 21:44 And now we are getting excited about this. 21:46 Look at the support. 21:48 Look at the support. 21:50 Our focus is on the dunya. 21:53 Focus is on the dunya. 21:56 I'm not saying these people what they do is wrong. 21:59 Fine. 21:59 They in their own way they are ignorant and they are doing what they feel. 22:05 You know like they are standing with their fellow citizens and whatever. 22:09 Khair. 22:09 Khair. 22:10 But our focus must not be on those things. 22:13 Our focus must be on Allah. 22:16 Our focus mustn't shift and go on to people, go on to rulers. 22:21 Our focus must always be on Allah. 22:25 And that focus can only come right if we have adami ikhtilat. 22:31 When we mix too much and we 22:35 Have too many friends, too many social, large social circle, then we confuse our lives. 22:45 We confuse ourselves, we confuse our lives. 22:48 Too much of discussion, too much of debate, too many opinions, then we ourselves also we get confused. 22:58 The sad thing is that we got so much of time 23:05 To talk to people on the outside. 23:08 Friends and whoever fellow musallis whatever we got so much of time to talk to all of them that sometime even in the masjid too we can't stop talking. 23:22 So much we got to discuss with friends that in the masjid too we can't stop talking. 23:30 But when we go home we can't talk to our wife. 23:36 At home, the wife, we can't share two words with her. 23:40 With the friends, we can make so much of discussions and so much. 23:46 In the masjid also, we can't stop talking. 23:48 We've got so many things to say. 23:51 But when we go home, then we can't even talk with our wife also. 23:58 And this chat groups, too much chat groups. 24:06 Always say that come out of this thing. 24:09 Sometime one or two are necessity where it's got some maksat, some objective. 24:16 You got the funeral notices that come. 24:19 Sometime you got some program notice that may come. 24:23 Community watch or something. 24:25 There's some message that comes. 24:27 Important. 24:29 Other than that, so many chat groups. 24:31 All this absolutely layani. 24:36 And worse is haram. 24:39 One is layani. 24:40 Futile. 24:41 Right? 24:42 Talkless. 24:42 Futile. 24:43 Useless conversation. 24:45 And the other is sometimes is haram conversation also taking place. 24:51 So now as we are moving towards Ramadan. 24:57 Not that we must be Muslims only for Ramadan. 25:01 There was one Buzur. 25:06 Somebody asked him that if you knew that today was the last day of your life how would you spend it? 25:18 If you knew that today was the last day of your life how would you spend it? 25:23 So he said I would spend it exactly like how I spent yesterday. 25:29 I would spend it exactly like how I spent yesterday. 25:33 Because they regarded every day 25:35 To be the last day of their life. 25:37 Nothing was going to change. 25:39 Exactly what I did yesterday. 25:41 That's exactly what I will do today. 25:46 So this is a very very important sabak. 25:51 Adame ikhtilat. 25:54 Adame ikhtilat. 25:55 Don't mix too much. 25:57 You got your wife. 25:59 You got your children. 26:01 That is your social circle. 26:04 What if your parents are alive? 26:07 Then treasure them. 26:09 Make their khidmat. 26:11 Spend time with them. 26:15 Good company. 26:16 Good company is better than solitude. 26:21 And solitude is better than bad company. 26:27 Good company is better than solitude. 26:30 And solitude is better than bad company. 26:34 But I ask you today, where is good company? 26:38 Where is good company today? 26:42 How much company is good? 26:45 Even those of us that are in a part of Suluk also. 26:51 Sometime for years, ask ourselves, am I good company? 26:58 Do I classify myself as good company? 27:03 If I talk in the masjid, if I'm sitting and I'm talking in the masjid, that means my friend who I'm talking to, I don't want him to get connected to Allah. 27:20 Me too, I don't want to get connected to Allah. 27:23 And my friend who I'm talking to also, I don't want him to get connected to Allah. 27:26 Because he came to the masjid to get connected with Allah. 27:30 Allah. 27:31 And I came with a different maqsad. 27:33 I came to make pancha. 27:35 So I too don't want to get connected. 27:38 And I don't want my friend also to get connected. 27:40 So am I good company then? 27:42 How can I be good company? 27:45 I'm not good company. 27:47 Person comes into the masjid and he's focused. 27:53 If he met somebody outside, he meets. 27:55 Assalamu alaikum. 27:59 You went to be into the masjid. 28:02 Once he got into the masjid, he read his sunnah. 28:04 He engaged in dua. 28:06 He engaged in some zikrullah. 28:08 Whatever it may be. 28:10 He is connected. 28:11 He is connected with Allah Ta'ala. 28:14 That is the reason he came to the house of Allah Ta'ala. 28:19 Not to wait outside. 28:20 Like a fisherman. 28:23 So who am I going to catch? 28:25 Enter the masjid. 28:26 Who am I going to sit next to? 28:29 Then I can start talking. 28:32 And we also sometimes, we know our weakness. 28:37 That if I go and sit next to somebody, I'm going to start talking. 28:41 So I must go sit next to the person. 28:45 I must go sit next to the person. 28:48 And if the person came and sat down next to me, and I know that this person here, he loves to start talking. 28:54 He's got a daughter, Muhammad. 28:55 He wants to talk all the time. 28:57 So he came to sit down next to me. 28:59 So you just start talking to Allah. 29:01 Fajr. 29:03 So if you start talking to Allah, your line is engaged. 29:07 Now you can't phone your number now. 29:09 Your line is engaged. 29:15 Why is it that a person who wants to do wrong, he is not shy in the wrong that he wants to do. 29:27 But we are shy in the good that we are trying to do. 29:32 Why? 29:34 The person who came, now he wants to start talking to you in the masjid, which is sinful thing, right? 29:40 He's not shy about it. 29:42 But we shy to tell that person, you know what? 29:45 Be in the house of Allah. 29:46 Keep quiet. 29:48 We'll talk later. 29:51 In the house of Allah Ta'ala. 29:55 What it's showing us then? 29:57 That that friendship is more important than 30:01 Then my connection with Allah. 30:04 A person is a new Muslim. 30:06 He came away in the masjid. 30:08 It's a different story. 30:10 There too Nabi sallallahu alayhi wasallam showed as example. 30:14 Person came in the masjid and he's urinating in the masjid. 30:17 Forget talking. 30:18 He's urinating in the masjid. 30:22 Nabi sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, leave him. 30:24 Let him finish. 30:28 After he finished, Nabi sallallahu alayhi wasallam called him, explained to him 30:32 Naishahun told the Sahaba, radiallahu ta'ala, go clean that mess up. 30:38 Then he called him and he explained to him. 30:40 Person was a new Muslim. 30:41 He didn't understand the adab of the masjid and all that. 30:46 That is a different story. 30:47 But here we know one another. 30:49 We are sitting in programs together. 30:53 We know one another. 30:54 We know now. 30:55 This person has made an intention. 30:57 He wants to get connected to Allah. 30:59 Fatiha. 30:59 I have also made an intention. 31:01 I want to get connected to Allah. 31:03 Now my friend, he is slipping up. 31:06 He wants to talk in the masjid. 31:08 So why am I shy to tell him? 31:12 You know what? 31:15 In Allah's house, let's be quiet. 31:19 Why am I shy to wake up from there and go sit somewhere else? 31:24 So if I do it one time, that person will also take a lesson. 31:31 I will also take a lesson. 31:33 And if he gets offended, then he is not sincere. 31:39 Then he is not sincere if he gets offended. 31:43 That is just one thing. 31:44 Just one aspect. 31:47 There are so many different aspects in our life. 31:51 But this very, very important lesson is Adame Iqtilat. 31:58 Kaam. 31:59 Kaam se kaam. 32:01 Phone somebody. 32:03 Get to the work. 32:04 Sort the work out and finish. 32:07 You need to go and buy something? 32:09 Go. 32:09 Discuss that particular thing and finish. 32:14 No. 32:14 Get into discussions. 32:16 Debates. 32:17 And we want to give our opinion. 32:19 Then if somebody don't accept our opinion then we want to argue the point. 32:23 Then we want to get upset and angry. 32:25 There's no need for all of this. 32:29 So try and curtail 32:31 The amount of people that we mix with. 32:34 The amount of people that we get involved with. 32:39 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. 32:43 We concentrate on our Islam. 32:47 We concentrate on our ta'alluq ma'Allah. 32:51 Outwardly we can make ourselves look very very serious and we attending 50 programs and whatever we are doing. 32:59 But if the ta'luq ma'Allah doesn't come, then we're not really making progress. 33:07 According to Hz. 33:09 Muhammad s.a.w. 33:11 that one of the biggest impediments in the progress in this path is too much mixing with people. 33:20 Too much mixing with people is one of the greatest impediments. 33:24 One of the greatest things that holds a person back from improving 33:29 And moving forward in this path. 33:33 Everything must have a balance. 33:36 Friends also. 33:37 There's a time. 33:37 There's a place. 33:40 Not every day. 33:41 All the time. 33:44 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. 33:46 He was tawfiq to make amr. 33:50 Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rahim. 33:52 Allahumma salli ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi Sayyidina Muhammad wa barik wa sallim. 33:59 Allahumma laka alhamdu kulluh wa laka alshukru kulluh. 34:03 Allahumma Rabbana atina fi al-dunya hasana wa fi al-akhirati hasana wa qina azaban naal. 34:11 Allahumma ahdina wa ahdi bina wa ja'alna sababan liman ihtada. 34:17 Allahumma ahdina li ahsani al-akhlaq. 34:19 La yahdi li ahsaniha illa ant. 34:22 Wa isrif anna sayyi'aha. 34:24 La yisrif anna sayyi'aha illa ant. 34:28 Allahumma inna nas'aluka al-siha wa al-ifra wa al-amanah wa husna al-kulk wa al-ghidhaa bi al-qadr. 34:36 Subhan Rabbika Rabbina hizati amma yusifoon wa salamun ala al-mursaleen. 34:42 Walhamdulillahi Rabbina alameen. 34:44 Ameen.
Direct your extra time and conversation toward your immediate family (wife, children, parents) rather than wasting hours on idle socializing with friends.
When entering the masjid, engage immediately in zikr , sunnah prayers, or dua to keep your "line engaged" with Allah and prevent casual chitchat. 
Hazrat Moulana Dawood Seedat Saheb