Faiz . Don’t exercise anger

Main Topic

The importance of controlling anger, practicing good character (akhlaq), and exercising patience within domestic life and spiritual relationships.

Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) requested Hazrat Wahshi (Radiallahu anhu) to sit away from his direct line of sight out of concern that renewed grief might hinder the flow of spiritual benefit (fuyuz) between teacher and seeker, not out of anger.
Sacred knowledge and spiritual benefit are transmitted heart-to-heart; disrespect or disharmony toward a teacher creates barriers to spiritual growth.
Although men are appointed as leaders (qawwamun) in the home, Allah Ta'ala reminds them of His supreme grandeur so that they do not abuse their authority through anger or injustice.
Showing ingratitude (nashukri) for divine blessings—such as a righteous spouse, wealth, or institutions of Deen—can result in the withdrawal of those bounties (zawal-e-ni'mat).
True noble character (akhlaq) is demonstrated by showing tolerance and kindness toward others even when their actions go against one's own temperament.

Surah An-Nisa (4:34): "الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ" (Men are in charge of women...) and the concluding reminder that Allah is Most High and Most Great ("إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيرًا").
Prophet's (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) example of never expressing personal anger, showing sternness only when sacred boundaries were breached.

Restrain and swallow anger at home, as anger is a destructive trait that destroys domestic harmony.
Protect the sanctity of Ramadan by avoiding marital conflicts leading up to and during the holy month.
Treat spouses with compassion and patience, viewing domestic difficulties as opportunities for spiritual growth and self-rectification.
Express gratitude for wealth and family by distributing blessings to those in need rather than engaging in sinful extravagance.