Main Topic
This lecture addresses the spiritual disease of anger, its relationship with pride (kibr), and its devastating effects on a believer's character, family life, and faith. The speaker emphasizes that controlling anger and perfecting internal character (akhlaq) is an essential Sunnah of Nabi Sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
Key Lessons
- Nabi Sallallahu alayhi wasallam stated that he was sent to complete good character; refining one's character and controlling anger is therefore a core Sunnah.
- Uncontrolled anger can lead a person to make statements or commit acts that endanger their Iman.
- Pride is often the root cause of anger—a refusal to accept the truth, wanting to always be right, or looking down on others.
- Shaitan flows through human veins and takes control during fits of anger, using it to disrupt marital harmony and personal peace.
- True patience (sabr) is maintained internally for the pleasure of Allah, rather than complaining while outwardly holding back.
Quranic/Hadith References
- Hadith: "I have been sent to complete good character" (Innamā bu'ith-tu li-utammima sālihal-akhlāq).
- Hadith: Nabi Sallallahu alayhi wasallam repeatedly advised a Companion, "Do not get angry" (La taghdab).
- Hadith: Guidance on managing anger—reading Ta'awwudh (A'udhu billahi minash-shaitanir-rajeem), changing physical posture (sitting down if standing, lying down if sitting), moving away from the situation, and drinking water.
- Prophetic Supplication: The dua of Rasulullah Sallallahu alayhi wasallam at Ta'if: "O Allah, forgive my people for they do not know."
Practical Advice
- Implement the Sunnah remedies immediately when feeling angry: recite Ta'awwudh, sit down, drink water, or remove yourself from the environment.
- Guard the tongue carefully, as unbridled speech during argument is a primary cause of domestic discord.
- Reflect on your relationship with Allah when annoyed by others; treat fellow human beings leniently because they are the servants of Allah.
- Avoid unnecessary confrontations and arguments just to prove yourself right or satisfy your ego.
Hazrat Moulana Dawood Seedat Saheb