Tohfa-e-Dulha Part 16

Main Topic

The contrast between the pristine simplicity of Nikah in the Sunnah and the excessive, complicated marriage customs in modern society.

Example of the Sahaba (Radiyallahu anhum): Hazrat Abdur Rahman bin Auf (Radiyallahu anhu) married quietly without extravagant announcements or grand events. Upon noticing a mark of perfume on him, Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) blessed his marriage and simply advised him to hold a Walima, even if with just one goat.
Human Needs Made Simple: Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'ala) created basic human necessities—oxygen, water, essential clothing, food, and the need for marriage—to be simple and accessible, preventing human hardship.
Modern Innovations in Weddings: Contemporary marriage practices are burdened with complex arrangements, elaborate engagement parties, non-Islamic customs (such as wedding bands), expensive invitations, and status-seeking behaviors.
Core Requirements of Nikah: In Islamic jurisprudence, a Nikah requires only an offer (Ijab), acceptance (Qabul), witnesses, and a stipulated Mahr (dower); additional extravagant functions are un-Islamic burdens.

Hadith on Walima: Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) advised Hazrat Abdur Rahman bin Auf (Radiyallahu anhu): "Observe Walima, even if with one goat" (Awlim walaw bishaatin).

Simplify wedding arrangements by avoiding un-Islamic non-Muslim customs like engagement parties and costly wedding rings.
Focus on the essence and Sunnah of Nikah rather than seeking high-profile scholars or lavish venues for status.
Prevent financial strain and avoid turning a basic legal need into a prolonged, costly affair.