Tohfa-e-Dulha Part 19

Main Topic

Correcting un-Islamic practices, extravagance, and ostentation in modern Walimah (wedding feast) celebrations to align them with the Sunnah.

Many modern Walimahs are hosted out of desire for status, social pressure, and show rather than true devotion to the Sunnah.
Incurring debt, using credit cards, or overextending finances for a lavish wedding feast is dangerous and strictly discouraged in Islam.
True respect should be shown for sacred knowledge (ilm) rather than worldly status or fame.
Extravagance in elaborate invitation cards, multi-course menus, and lavish decor leads to severe waste (Israf) and deprives the gathering of barakah.
Practices like mixed gatherings, photography, immodest dress, music, and imitating non-Muslim wedding traditions introduce sin into the beginning of a marriage.

Hadith mentioning debt and kufr (disbelief) in close conjunction, highlighting the severity of unnecessary debt.
Prophetic guidance on adding extra broth/water to food to share with others and bring barakah into simple meals.

Keep Walimah functions simple, modest, and strictly within personal financial capability without going into debt.
Simplify the menu to a single wholesome meal rather than lavish multi-course spreads to avoid food waste.
Utilize digital invitations (SMS, messaging apps) instead of expensive printed cards that often end up discarded in the trash.
Maintain strict modesty, segregation, and Islamic etiquette during wedding events, avoiding photography, music, and free mixing.