Main Topic
Appreciating the mothers and wives in our homes, recognizing their non-obligatory sacrifices as acts of favor (ihsan), and avoiding ingratitude or harsh treatment toward them.
Key Lessons
- Domestic chores such as cooking, cleaning, and washing performed by mothers and wives are acts of benevolence and favor, not obligatory duties owed to the family.
- Taking their labor for granted or complaining about minor shortcomings constitutes Kufran-e-Ni'mat (ingratitude for favors).
- Long-term physical health issues in mothers, such as arthritis, often result from years of selfless care and labor in cold conditions for their children.
- Looking at non-mahram women or committing sins harms marital content, causing spouses to falsely claim they have nothing in common.
- Increasing in Taqwa (Allah-consciousness) and adhering to Deen naturally deepens genuine love and affection for one's wife, which is a Sunnah.
Quranic/Hadith References
- Mention of Kufran-e-Ni'mat (ingratitude for bounties and favors).
- Principles of lowering the gaze and avoiding proximity to Zina to protect the heart and marriage.
Practical Advice
- Express constant gratitude and praise to mothers and wives for their daily household efforts.
- Avoid being demanding or showing a sour attitude when meals or chores are not prepared to exact preferences.
- Exercise patience (sabr) when facing differences in temperament or marital difficulties, recognizing them as tests from Allah.
- Lower the gaze and stay away from non-mahram interactions to maintain contentment and love within marriage.
Hazrat Moulana Dawood Seedat Saheb