Main Topic
An Islamic discourse on treating wives with kindness, patience, and companionship, drawing from the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and Quranic guidance.
Key Lessons
- Husbands should prioritize quality companionship with their wives and involve them in permissible leisure activities rather than neglecting them for friends.
- Marriage requires a mindset shift where a husband actively considers his wife's emotional needs and feelings rather than treating her like a servant.
- Following the Prophetic model involves expressing affection, showing forbearance, and appreciating a spouse's positive traits.
- Differences in temperament should be met with patience and understanding, recognizing that trying to forcefully change a spouse can lead to marital breakdown.
Quranic/Hadith References
- Quran (Surah An-Nisa 4:19): Commandment to live with wives in goodness and to recognize the goodness Allah has placed in them even if one dislikes a specific trait.
- Hadith: The Prophet (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) stated, "The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best amongst you for my family."
- Farewell Pilgrimage (Hajjatul Wida) Sermon: Remainder to fear Allah regarding women, as they are a trust (amanah) taken under Allah's name.
- Hadith on the Rib: Description of a woman's natural disposition being like a curved rib, where attempting to forcefully straighten it breaks it (symbolizing divorce).
Practical Advice
- Avoid raising the prospect of divorce during arguments or over single, isolated mistakes.
- Focus on a spouse's good qualities, virtues, and past sacrifices rather than fixating on minor faults.
- Practice self-control, forbearance, and emotional tolerance when disagreements arise in the home.
Hazrat Moulana Dawood Seedat Saheb