Main Topic
This lecture addresses the rights of the wife over her husband in Islam, focusing on physical maintenance, respectful treatment, proper dispute resolution, and balancing religious or travel commitments with marital obligations.
Key Lessons
- Husbands must provide their wives with the same standard of food and clothing that they partake of themselves.
- Physical abuse, striking the face, belittling, and insulting one's wife are strictly prohibited in Islam.
- Trial separation as practiced in Western culture is un-Islamic; if separation occurs during domestic disputes, it must remain within the home and not involve total boycott or non-communication.
- A husband may not remain away from home for more than four months without his wife's explicit permission.
- Religious work (such as going in Jamaat or visiting a Khanqah) cannot be used as an excuse to shirk financial and emotional duties toward one's family.
Quranic/Hadith References
- Hadith narrated by Bahzad bin Mu'awiyah bin Haydah (Radiallahu 'anhu): The Prophet (Sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam) stated that a wife's rights include being fed and clothed to the husband's standard, not being struck on the face, not being insulted, and not being deserted except within the home.
Practical Advice
- Ensure all household expenses (rent, utilities, food, medical needs) are fully provided for before embarking on any long journey or spiritual retreat.
- Consult with your family (mashwarah) and respect your wife's rights and feelings before planning extended trips.
- Before getting married, ensure you possess the financial capability and maturity to fulfill a wife's rights; otherwise, engage in consecutive fasting to control desires.
Hazrat Moulana Dawood Seedat Saheb