Tohfa-e-Dulha Part 60

Main Topic

The Rights, Respect, and Utmost Care Due to Parents, Especially in Their Old Age.

Respecting and honoring parents is a lifelong obligation with no conditions or age restrictions.
When parents reach old age, their physical and emotional needs increase, requiring extra patience, mercy, and compassion from their children.
The deep sacrifices parents make during a child's youth—spending their earnings, adjusting budgets, and staying awake during illnesses—can never be fully repaid.
A child and everything they own ultimately belong to their father, as emphasized by Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam).
Engaging in religious learning or achieving worldly success does not justify arrogance or speaking sharply to one's parents.

Surah Al-Isra (17:23-24): Mentioning the command to lower the wing of humility to parents and to pray: "Rabbir hamhuma kama rabbayani sagheera" (My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up when I was small).
Hadith of the father and son brought before Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam): Hazrat Jibreel (Alayhis Salam) revealed the silent poetic thoughts of a father whose heart was broken by his son's stinginess. Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) grabbed the son's collar and stated: "Anta wa maaluka li abik" (You and your wealth belong to your father).

Never raise your voice, roll your eyes, or display annoyance towards your parents, even during disagreements.
When trying to correct family practices or advise parents on Deen, use gentleness, wisdom (hikmat), and sincere Dua rather than harsh arguments or confrontation.
Prioritize spending quality time with aging parents rather than treating them as a burden or routine chore.