Tohfa-e-Dulhan Part 40

Main Topic

Fostering marital harmony through gratitude (shukr), contentment with one's decreed provision (rizq), and adopting simplicity in daily living.

Material provisions are strictly decreed by Allah Ta'ala; complaining about what a husband provides is fundamentally questioning Allah's divine distribution.
Unchecked material desire and comparing oneself to those with greater wealth breeds discontentment and leads to unnecessary marital friction.
When evaluating worldly matters, believers should look at those who have less to cultivate gratitude; in spiritual matters, they should look at those who excel to inspire growth.
Ingratitude toward a spouse is highlighted in Hadith as a grave sin that can lead to severe punishment in the Hereafter.
Simplicity is an essential Islamic virtue; spending excessive time and wealth on worldly luxuries detracts from preparing for the Akhirah.

Hadith on Worldly vs. Deeni Outlook: Look at those less fortunate in material wealth to cultivate shukr, and look at those ahead in Deen to increase worship.
Hadith on Ingratitude in Marriage: Rasulullah Sallallahu alayhi wasallam admonished that ungratefulness toward husbands is a primary cause for women entering Jahannam.
Hadith of Sayyidatina Aisha Radiallahu Anha: She wept when eating a satisfying meal, recalling that Rasulullah Sallallahu alayhi wasallam never ate bread and meat to his fill twice in a single day.

Accustom the tongue to say Alhamdulillah constantly for all blessings, big or small, and even during minor ailments.
Avoid falling into israf (extravagance) through over-complicated recipes, excessive house decorations, and luxury items.
Channel surplus wealth towards charitable causes, supporting poor relatives, or supporting efforts to spread Deen instead of home displays.