Tohfa-e-Dulhan Part 82

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Guidelines for wives on avoiding excessive financial demands on husbands and maintaining respectful, harmonious relationships with mothers-in-law.

Wives must avoid pressuring their husbands to spend beyond their financial means or making comparisons with other families.
Unreasonable financial pressure can drive husbands into debt, dishonest practices, emotional frustration, or depression.
Hazrat Mu'adh ibn Jabal (Radiyallahu Anhu) highlighted that the trial of prosperity and luxury can be a greater test than the trial of hardship.
Mothers-in-law should be treated with utmost respect, patience, and kindness, recognizing that elderly individuals require compassionate care.
Exhibiting deference and good character towards in-laws builds deep family affection, secures their dua, and earns the pleasure of Allah Ta'ala.

The advice of Hazrat Mu'adh ibn Jabal (Radiyallahu Anhu) warning the Sahaba regarding the trials of prosperity and extravagance.
The narration recorded from Hazrat Raja bin Hayah (Rahimahullah) detailing the warnings of Hazrat Mu'adh (Radiyallahu Anhu).

Never compare your husband's financial provision or gifts to what others receive.
Avoid extravagance and live within reasonable bounds even when wealth is available.
Honor your mother-in-law by offering her the front seat in vehicles and giving her first choice when sharing materials or gifts.
Refrain from constantly complaining about in-laws to your spouse; look after elderly relatives with patience and service.
Set aside mobile phones during family visits and gatherings to show genuine respect and hospitality.